Detachment

2017, a year that taught me what is detachment. That is a very deep word and a deep life realization. But that was not the first time I came across that word.

It was 2013, got a chance to read a book, i dont really remember the title, but it was something related to Buddha. I totally agree with detachment from materials and stuff but not for the relationships. As human beings, we are living as socially dependent community. Our family are so important to us. How to just detach everything? I closed the book and never think about it again.

No matter who say what, few lessons are  only learnt by personal experiences. That's how i learnt about detachment too. Day by day, the importance of detachment is so clear to me.

But again, how to detach, when we are so attached to everything? When i started to believe in detachment, i was very confused. Again, it took a lot of life experience to realize how to practice it in life.

Somehow, we are still living in a society, we have our like and dislikes, dreams and desires, families and acquaintances, that we still need to 'attached' to. One fine day, i just concluded to myself, be attached consciously, be detached subconsciously.

As easy as it sounds, it still take a lot of sacrifices, lost of loved ones, heartbreaks, bad experiences to realize it. One who how to differ life in conscious world and subconscious world knows what meant to be where in both worlds.

I know i am not a monk, but i realized that the concept of 'let go' in form of detachment. As a 28 year old, not ready for detachment in conscious level but i am glad i have fix it in my behind mind so that i don't suffer when there is a major lost in my life. No one will get everything they want and no one will live forever, isn't it?

Like a kid

I was going through posts in Pinterest, suddenly came a across a simple yet beautiful watercolor drawing. To be honest, i don't really how to use watercolor, its always too dark or too watery.

Knowing myself, i decided to recreate the drawing i saw in a piece of paper, using oil pastel. The result? As you can see, i think a 5 years old would have done better. But that thought made me feel like a kid. 

A kid, that don't need to worry about perfections, blend of colors, follow the line... Just nothing. As an adult, we don't have a chance to not worry about those little things, isn't it? 

Miss those moments where even our scribble is the best thing we have ever draw. That self expectation become too much that we stopped enjoy doing little things that once made us so happy. 

I am posting this today, just as a self reminder, there is still a kid inside you, who love to do little things and be very happy about it. 

I was happy, i laughed so much looking at my own drawing, remembering back when i was a kid, who does not need to worry about perfection, i just draw what i want to draw and showed my mom happily, and yes , she said that too, "like a kid".Ha- ha...

I had a chance to escape from this adulthood, even just for a while. .

Okay, stop laughing already.. Ha-ha!!!

It's Been a While...

I am opening my blog after almost 4 months. To be very honest, i typed out my blog URL very quickly, no spelling mistake. Which showed me, this is something that is always in my mind. But i am not doing it. Why? Problems, stress, life..

It's a wonder how these kind of things can actually make us divert away from things we like to do. Its takes a lot of self-discipline to even to things we love the most isn't it.

I realized, life is not only about analyzing what is the problem is, but to find the answers to overcome it too. 4 months is not a short time, but i am happy i am here, realized things, started to type whatever comes in my mind, at this very moment.

Of course, this was not a new year resolution, i was very busy doing my bullet journal, even that time it didn't crossed my mind to do a goal setting "write blog everyday". This is just another morning, where i was walking here and there, listening to songs, looked at my lap top, dusty. I cleaned it, opened it, think for a sec what should i do and immediately came to this page and typing.

This is becoming my new year resolution now, this moment, to write my blog everyday. How to? My routine has been to wake up, commute to work, work, and commute back from work, sleep. How to find inspiration to write in this kind of life? The only word came to my mind now is - BE OBSERVANT.

Gosh, did i just made one of my goal public? Which means it's a challenge for myself. Challenges not only empowering, it breeds inspiration. This everyday thing is to be added in my bullet journal right after publishing this blog.

Writing this today, made me realize...

How's your first day of new year been?

Opinion

Everyone have their own opinion in everything. Try to make a decision that is not their point of view or that's not how they see the situation, that's it, You are judged!

People just won't let you live a life that you actually wants. Frequently we losing our own individuality because we worry too much about what people think of us.

Often, these people are those who are very close to us, like family and good friends. Although their opinion matters, don't forget to live you life because one day when these people are not with us anymore, you will regret that you didn't live a life you wanted in fear of losing them.

We have to train ourselves to be strong so that what others think about doesn't hinder us from where we stand. They could say things based on what they heard, what they read, or even what they have experienced, but things are different to anyone and we cannot let anyone's life story influence ours.

Look inside yourself, who you are, what you want, what you believe in, all this can change everyday, but you must remember, this changes must be from within you, not from outside.

Enough said, i wrote whatever i feel in this post, doesn't means that you have to agree with me, you might have your opinion, but one thing that both of us must do is, you should not ask me to change my opinion, and i should not ask you to change yours. This way, everyone can live their life peacefully.

Do share your opinion:)

Shut up and write already

Naturally I am very expressive, I talk a lot, to those who listen to me , otherwise, I am quiet and talk to myself.

One of the thing I ask myself a lot is "should I write it down?", before I could answer, I start doing something else, and remember the "it " that I was thinking, I forget what was "It"!!!

Everyday, we think about a lot of things, but we don't really take it serious and just forget it. One fine day, we will realize, we should have write it down.

I came across the topic, when I clicked the "New Post" tab, I asked myself, "I only know the topic, how to write rest of it." But when I start writing , i managed to write something.

It doesn't matter how long is it, how good is it, when you feel like expressing yourself, just pen it down, without worrying about the outcome.

What are you writing, do share!(I am going to write a story that was in my mind for a while now)

Love

It's February, let's talk about LOVE!!

What is love? In my opinion, love is indefinable, because love have different meaning for different people.

For an example, some people thinks that love is when you prioritize your loved one over anything or anyone, but for some people, love is to be understanding and patience when the loved one is busy and can't prioritize you at the moment.

No matter how it mean to us, love is the most beautiful thing in our life. We laugh together, be there for each other when sad times, we go places together to create a lot of memories, we sacrifice, and a lot a lot more!!

Another beautiful thing in love is that willingness to do anything for our loved ones sometimes put ourselves into a situation where we wonder, is that me who done all that?

I get very creative when it's gifting time for my loved one. Be it anniversary, birthday or valentines day, i always think, Google a lot to do the most unique gift for him. The efforts I take pays off when seeing his astonished reaction.

What is the most beautiful or craziest things you have gifted him?! Do share!!

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Acknowledging Kindness

When someone do something, We say "thank you".

But not all the people do the same, when we do them a favor , some will just smile, some will just nod their head, some will just look at us and walk away and some will just walk away without any reaction.

And the people we choose to say thank you is different too, in many families, they don't say thank you to each other , among friends- a very famous dialogue 'there is no need thanks between friends'. When we don't say this to the people we know, how we going to say that to strangers?

Now, why we need to say thank you?  Well, why not? More than just being polite, saying thank you shows our gratitude for the help received, we are telling them in two words that we are not taking their help for granted. Not to forget, a lot of studies shows that we can get a lot of benefits when we cultivate gratitude!

Let's acknowledge other's kindness by saying Thank you no matter how small thing they have done for you. You might think it just two words, but don't ever underestimate the power of gratitude.

Thank you all for reading 🙏